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What the New Testament Says About Gossip, Part 2

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Delving into the book of Proverbs two weeks ago, we learned that gossip in the Old Testament emphasizes a betrayal of trust. And last week, we worked through two New Testament passages which describe gossiping as whispering.

The remaining New Testament verses about this subject are in the Pastoral Epistles. These are letters Paul wrote to his apostolic assistants Timothy and Titus. Rather than warning about whispering, Paul uses two other terms for gossip.

There are four verses in 1 Timothy, 2 Timothy, and Titus which mention gossip. Three verses use a certain Greek word and another verse uses a different one. We’ll start our investigation with the latter. (I will use the NASB for the Bible verses.)

Bubble

“At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention.” – 1 Timothy 5:13

The Greek word phluaros derives from a verb meaning, “to bubble.” This noun, then, identifies people spilling over with zeal for inane ideas. Furthermore, they can’t keep a lid on their opinions. This is the only verse in the New Testament that uses this term.

Here, Paul criticizes the fruitless behavior of young widows in the church. Rather than investing themselves in the work of the Lord, they’re drawn to incidentals. Without the responsibilities of family, they drift toward sloth and trivia. They have the time and the energy to contribute to the well-being of the church. But these women fritter away their opportunities, opting for entertainment instead.

Do we recognize ourselves in this picture? What do we devote ourselves to? Where are we dedicating our hearts and our resources? Do we find serving Jesus interesting or must we force ourselves to get going?

The good news is, we can repent and make progress. Paul said these widows learned how to be idle, to gossip, and to nitpick. If we can ask the Lord to show us what grabs our attention, we can unlearn what isn’t worth knowing. By God’s grace, we’re able to free ourselves to discover, master, and enjoy what we should.

Slander

Believe it or not, the other Greek word Paul uses for gossip in his Pastoral Letters is diabolos. It resembles the English word “diabolical” but 37 times we translate this Greek term as “devil.” Here are the three occasions where Paul mentions the devil in the Pastoral Epistles.

“He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity 5(but if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?), 6and not a new convert, so that he will not become conceited and fall into the condemnation incurred by the devil. 7And he must have a good reputation with those outside the church, so that he will not fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.” – 1 Timothy 3:4-7

“The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, 25with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, 26and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.” – 2 Timothy 2:24-26

In both passages, Paul tips off church leaders to the wiles of the enemy. The devil will try to trap overseers by taking advantage of their missteps. That’s why those who serve the Lord need to avoid the pitfalls of pride and argumentativeness.

By grounding themselves in the truth of the gospel, church leaders can rescue those whom the enemy has deceived and captured. This doesn’t guarantee success; the stubborn have to change their minds. But gossip doesn’t have to win; the truth of God in Christ is greater.

The word diabolos occurs 40 times in the Greek New Testament. Here are the three remaining verses where it’s translated as “gossip” rather than “devil.”

“Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things.” – 1 Timothy 3:11

“For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; avoid such men as these.” – 2 Timothy 3:2-5

“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, 4so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” – Titus 2:3-5

Notice how the English Bible describes gossipers as “malicious.” We’ve moved beyond violations of trust, whispering secrets, and bubbling over with the latest news. By using the word diabolos, Paul introduces the notion of slander.

This goes to intent.

Whether they know it or not, gossipers are mimicking the devil. His aim is to slander believers and accuse them to God of sinful thoughts and deeds. He wants to disqualify them.

So do gossips. The more they tear down others, the better they feel about themselves.

As truth is greater than trivia, so the gospel can defeat slander. It destroys the motives and effects of slanderous speech. If we try to find our security in anything or anyone other than Jesus, we risk becoming gossips. We’ll build ourselves up by destroying others.

But the Lord offers a better way. As Alcoholics Anonymous says, we “let go and let God.” We don’t have to fight, bicker, and gossip to make ourselves look superior. In fact, there’s a good chance it will backfire! But when we give ourselves over to Christ without reservation, we find peace. God will deal with all these matters; all we have to do is trust Him.

“Therefore do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts; and then each man’s praise will come to him from God.” – 1 Corinthians 4:5

Let go and let God! Find your security in Jesus and you’ll lose the motivation to gossip.

What the New Testament Says About Gossip, Part 1

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Delving into the book of Proverbs last week, we learned that gossip has two key characteristics in the Old Testament: idle talk and betrayal of trust. When we gossip, we’re wasting time or revealing confidential information. Since Proverbs is all about gaining wisdom, engaging in gossip is the opposite. It’s foolishness in action. Wasting our time on trivial matters does us little good. Divulging a secret someone entrusted to us damages our relationships. We can even destroy some of them.

Transitioning to the New Testament, we see that God isn’t finished with the subject. He has more to say! Making use of the New American Standard Bible, I collected seven verses that deal with gossip. (I also quote a verse from the New International Version.) All these references are in letters the apostle Paul wrote. He must have thought gossip was a big problem for churches!

What’s Paul’s take on this subject?

Whisper

In two passages, he identifies gossiping as whispering.

“And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, 29being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, 30slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful; 32and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.” – Romans 1:28-32

The Greek word here is psithyristes and means “a whisperer, secret slanderer, detractor.” It occurs only here in the Greek New Testament.

“For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.” – 2 Corinthians 12:20 (NIV)

This word, psithyrismos, is a cognate of the noun in Romans 1:29. Like the word above, it refers to whispering and occurs nowhere else in the Greek New Testament.

What’s the connection between gossiping and whispering?

We whisper when we gossip because we know we’re saying things we shouldn’t. We’re supposed to keep our mouths shut, but we can’t help ourselves. Yet we don’t want to get in trouble, so we spread secrets in secret. We tone down our voices but we don’t turn them off! We even dare to tell someone not to tell others something we ourselves were not supposed to tell others! Something’s wrong with this picture! And that’s what Paul exposes.

The apostle recognizes the universality of gossip. In the Romans passage, it characterizes the non-Christian world. And in 2 Corinthians, it reflects the potential condition of a local church.

So gossip is unavoidable; it’s a feature of human nature. We spot it in others and we’ll catch it in the mirror, too, if we’re honest.

Open

If whispering is the problem, the solution is shouting, right? Or at least being up front and public. We have nothing to hide. In fact, we should dare to state our ideas and communicate the truth out loud. Especially when people need our help. 

“Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all the unfortunate. 9Open your mouth, judge righteously, and defend the rights of the afflicted and needy.” – Proverbs 31:8-9

And we have Christ’s specific encouragement to spread His good news.

“And the Lord said to Paul in the night by a vision, ‘Do not be afraid any longer, but go on speaking and do not be silent; 10for I am with you, and no man will attack you in order to harm you, for I have many people in this city [of Corinth].’ 11And he settled there a year and six months, teaching the word of God among them.” – Acts 18:9-11

The gospel of Jesus Christ deserves more than a whisper! It’s praiseworthy because it discloses the depths of God’s grace. We experience His lovingkindness and beneficence in the gift of His Son. We become disciples of Jesus by receiving the grace of God in Christ. And we grow as disciples when we lavish it on others. No matter how long it takes, declaring the truth of Christ is time well spent.

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. 30Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” – Ephesians 4:29-32

Hoarding the grace of God hurts the Spirit because He knows we can’t stay quiet. If we don’t speak to build up others, we’ll use our words as weapons. How often do bad motives drive us to bad-mouth our neighbors?

But when we contemplate God’s mercy shown to us in Christ, we find the capacity to be kind. Abandoning rumors, we declare gospel truth that liberates and blesses. 

“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; 2and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma. 3But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints; 4and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.” – Ephesians 5:1-4

God doesn’t gossip, and neither do His children. The Lord reveals the truth to save people, not to ruin them. And Christ calls His followers to do the same. Refraining from insults and degrading put-downs can feel like a sacrifice. But we’re inspired to take this path because we’re grateful for the grace of God. He’s been so good to us; we have to be good to others! Even if they don’t deserve it. After all, neither did we!

This isn’t all Paul wrote about gossip, but we’ve covered enough for one post. Next week, we’ll conclude by working through the Pastoral Epistles. But until then, speak with clarity and confidence or stay silent. The Spirit and the circumstances will help you decide which to choose. The grace of Jesus Christ won’t let you down.

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